Anything Worth Doing Is Worth Doing Poorly

Anything Worth Doing Is Worth Doing Poorly

Many of us miss some of life's best things while saying, "I
don't know how to do that. If I were to try, I'd only make a fool of
myself."

A fellow I know well tried to water ski - once. He tried to get
up on the skis three or four times that day. Every time he tried, he wound
up tumbling into the water. The three guys on the lake with him all coached.
They also laughed at his frustration. "One last time!" he yelled. Then, when
he was yanked into the lake again, he swam over to the boat. He was edgy for
the remainder of the day. And he has never tried to water ski again in the
40 or more years since.

Perfectionists settle for nothing short of a first-rate
performance from themselves. When they come across something that has to be
learned through trial and error, they become intolerant of their
limitations. They pile up points in the things they can do with ease and
skill, while ignoring - and maybe even putting down - the things they do
poorly.

People with this bent of personality can get depressed, for
nobody is capable of premier performance in everything. They get so tense
they sometimes botch even the things they are good at doing. They can't
relax. They remove risks from life by narrowing their interests. They get in
safe, comfortable, and boring ruts.

It's liberating for some people to find out they can make
mistakes and still survive! If your new dessert flops, the world won't end.
If you make a mistake at work, you won't die. If you can't master calculus
or statistics, you can still be a good person. If someone hears you sing
off-key, you won't become an outcast.

Thank God for mistakes. They let you learn. They mean you are
still pushing out your horizons. They give you a chance to grow. They let
the rest of us know you are still one of us.

If you were perfect, your life would be terribly dull. Nothing
to learn. No more challenges. No relationships with peers. The rest of us
would probably be too intimidated to talk to you, play tennis with you, or
work alongside you. And you certainly wouldn't need for anyone of our
inferior status to care about you.

So don't be paralyzed by your fears. Whatever it is that you
want to do and do well likely will be learned through a process that
involves some miscues and false starts. But, if it's worth doing at all,
it's worth doing poorly at first.

Give it a shot. Take piano lessons. Write a short story. Learn
to use a computer. Paint your bedroom. Water ski. Care about someone.

At the cross, God showed us how creative he can be with what
looked to all the world to be failure. Why not give him a chance with you?

by way of Fax of life RubelShelly.